Everybody knows that “Rome wasn’t built in a day,” but in real life there is this constantly seductive impulse to treat This . Very . Moment as if it is definitive. At least, there is and always has been for me. Overdramatic. But oh-so-hard-to-avoid.
This moment is not definitive. No moment is definitive. I have to remember that.
Even at “last moments” for this or that—your life, your job, your relationship, whatever—the flow of time and reality is informed by a million non-definitive moments that have gone before. And even if you can successfully identify a “final moment,” it is a mistake to think of it as a “definitive moment,” because in fact by the time you arrive at final moments, it is too late; the future was encoded by all the moments that went before.
In short, there are no definitive moments. There is only now.
Do your best now. Always. But remember that your best is not the same thing as imagining that “now” is definitive, because that imagination is what leads to misunderstanding and mis-action.