If you look for reasons to do a certain thing or feel a certain way, whether in regard to events, people, or life decisions, you will find them.
Anything can be rationalized.
To get to the promised land, however, you’ve got to own your power and your decisions, stop looking for the “reasons” and rationalizations, and admit to yourself that you do X or feel Y because that is the agency that you have and the decision that you have made, full stop.
Reasons… reasons are a dime a dozen. You can come up with reasons for anything. But as long as you do that, you’re playing with fire. Take reasons into account. Have reasons that you’ve included in your consideration. But don’t have reasons “why.” Because once you reach that stage, you are living in denial and disempowerment.
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Life is both beautiful and ugly.
I wish the two could be separated, but it seems they can’t simply because we who are living it, are both beautiful and ugly.