There are two kinds of immediately impending things.
Those that come hurtling toward you in time, hit you full in the face, then recede rapidly into history, and those that are always immediately impending but that never seem to arrive, permanently darkening the horizon wihout the possibility of catharsis.
Death is the most obvious of these, but there are many others both grand and mundane.
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There are two primary versions of Santa Claus for kids in contemporary culture.
Larger-than-life Santa has a flawless, extravagant red suit, gleaming gold-rimmed spectacles, a pure-white beard of glossy hair, curled to perfection in bobs that go nearly down to his waist. He has one major line, which is “Ho, ho, ho!”
Hearth Santa’s suit is rumpled, as though he’s been wearing it for years, his spectacles are actually just eyeglasses, his beard is real and has all of the kinkiness and uneven color of an actual gray beard, and it ends about four to eight inches below his face. He doesn’t have lines, he has conversations with kids.
I prefer the latter.
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People say “don’t judge” as though it’s some sort of taken-for-granted moral value these days.
I prefer to judge openly. “Don’t judge” leads us to Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton, because what it really means is “I forgive my own sins and the sins of those like me,” not “I forgive the sins of those who are not like me.”
“Don’t judge” sounds as though it’s about tolerance of others, but in fact it’s merely and only about insisting on the moral defectiveness of anyone who doesn’t tolerate me.
Like everything else in contemporary society, it is narcissistic.
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There are two strains of MGTOW, the loud, reaction-formation one that paints billboards and has bad manners and an aggressive, punitive agenda, and a quiet one that goes largely unnamed.
The first one is getting all the press these days, but I suspect that the second one, which used to be called “confirmed bachelorhood,” will be a much bigger deal when the history books on this half-century are written. It’s not an activist creed like the first, but rather a live-and-let live perspective on gender and relationships that sees with clear eyes the fact that in our current cultural configuration, men and women do not make each other happy, and when in close quarters impose significant—even catastrophic—risks and costs on one another that perhaps ought not to be rationally and can not be wisely accepted by either.
This second version of MGTOW, which is MGTOW in the literal sense only, rather than a brand, is the product of reason and maturity in light of social conditions, and is related to a similar brand of WGTOW that, unmarketed, has been going on for some time now.
There is only one kind of complementary heterogender relationship right now that works well—that in which there is a mutually understood and accepted imbalance of power and authority that is significant enough to render the relationship one of husbandry. Of course, in such instances, the hammer in the relationship, whether man or woman, quickly learns two things: (1) anvils are not much better company than pets, and (2) they are significantly more expensive to maintain and care for.
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Identity disruption is empirically seen to be the cause of a number of mental health and life-arc maladies, but the proposed cure—the construction and support of stable identities—is incomplete.
This latter cannot be achieved self-referentially—that is to say that one cannot form a stable identity sui generis. Because the fertile ground that produced any one can and will continue to produce others in response to stimuli and to circumstances; gardens that grow vegetables well inevitably grow weeds well. That is the nature of unmanaged fertility.
We don’t like objective foundations or collectively normative metaphysics, but without them, identity is an unstable quantum—that is to say, quantized and infinitely and suddenly variable—property.
People will not find mental health until they are defined either by a God or by a stable circle of others who impose an identity upon them. Identity freedom and self-definition aren’t merely myths; given human biology and nature, they’re mental disorders.
All of society right now is engaged in “Please, mental-illness-for-all—it’s ethical!” activism.