Perspective. It’s a funny thing. You lose it and you don’t even know it’s gone and you’re suddenly making every mistake in the book. Then, from out of the blue, when you least expect it, it hits you on the head and everything is clear.
Tonight, I pissed someone off pretty bad, totally without meaning to. In fact, I thought I was being nice — helpful even. But what I did really made them very angry and in the midst of it all, they said I was being self-centered and defensive, protecting myself at the expense of respect for the free will and feelings of others.
And when I understood what they meant, everything was suddenly in perspective once again. You cannot “help” people into just the position you want them to be in, naturally. People are people and exist beyond my feelings about them or my feelings about what they do. What shocks me most is that I didn’t realize that lately I’ve been ignoring such wisdom completely.
So just like that, every single problem I have in the world right now was solved. Maybe things aren’t as good as they could have been had I never lost perspective in the first place, but certainly I have gone from unhappy and confused to perfectly content and perfectly clear — in under six hours!
I only hope my apologies reach their destinations, because I really and truly owe some people apologies!