Leapdragon 2016 - Aron Hsiao Was Here

Seeing adulthood.  §

It’s hard to know when you’re grown up, or how to be grown up, when you didn’t get much of a chance to be a kid.

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The end of childhood can arrive early in all kinds of disguises, worn by parents:

– Violence
– Ambition
– Concern for the future
– Need and loneliness
– Inadequacy

I’m sure there are others.

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For those that don’t know, here’s what kids do:

– Play to exhaustion
– Shirk responsibility
– Lie compulsively
– Yell and make loud noises
– Manipulate and cajole
– Throw tantrums
– Need endlessly
– Ridiculous shit
– Silly shit
– Ignore the future entirely

If you have a kid that isn’t doing this stuff at five, or seven, or even ten years old in some way or other, don’t be too proud of yourself. It doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve succeeded.

It may mean precisely that you’ve failed. Ask yourself whether—because they didn’t feel safe and loved and accepted doing these things with you during their formative years—they’ll spend the rest of their lives compulsively doing them with other adults instead.

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And if you are an adult that recognizes yourself in that last sentence, you should probably also—for your own health and happiness—ask you just what it is about your childrens’ childhood that you have such trouble tolerating. And why.

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