Always rationalize others’ behaviors and sharply question and apologize for your own, no matter what the behaviors in question.
Never justify your own uncivil behavior, no matter what may have happened to inspire it. Own the blame, and blame no other.
Express the incredibly strong internal responses that you have to things in the quietest possible terms, and only at times and places specifically set aside for doing so.
Guard against the emergence of an “activist mentality” in your own thoughts and behavior.
Support longstanding norms even if at the moment they result in catastrophic outcomes to which you are stridently opposed.
Put others first and yourself second.
Remember that now is rarely the time; the immediate moment passes quickly, and time itself is quite long.
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Why do we live in a troubled society in the conceptual middle of a troubled globe?
Because these rules, so long known by so many wise people, are the precise opposite of what have been broadly embraced by the public these days. Every one of these, when flipped to its opposite, is now the conventional wisdom.
Nobody stops to realize that if we flip each of these to its opposite, we must also flip the title to read: “Rules for living in a selfish state of eternal offense and factional warfare.”